Upcoming NWTA – Hear the Call. Now is the time!

by David Galvagno on January 26, 2016

Get The Life You Want The New Warrior Training Adventure

The Next NWTA in
Upstate New York is
April 29 – May 1, 2016

Learn More: http://nwta.mkp.org

To speak with someone call:

Dennis Koch (585) 703-7300
or
Rich Riedman (585) 820-7618

Experience a Men’s Group Near You!

“The Mission of The ManKind Project USA is to create a world where men act on their individual and collective responsibility for the future of humanity by initiating and supporting men on a path of emotional maturity, spiritual awareness and deepening community.”

Our programs and groups fly in the face of rigid stereotypes about the “Sensitive New Age Man” AND the “Macho Man”. We ask men to go right up to the edge – and beyond it – in a culture that seems to be comfortable with mediocrity and passivity from men. We ask men to stop living a vicarious adventure through their TV’s and step into a real time adventure to win back their passion for life. We ask men to confront the real problems in their lives and to get 100% honest about who they are. Some men have a really hard time doing that. Many of us did too, but we took the risk anyway.

Intention and commitment – What we practice and why.

  • Emotional Authenticity – Because we believe in honesty and wholeness … we practice emotional intelligence and self-awareness. read more …
  • Personal Responsibility – Because we value integrity and accountability … we take 100% responsibility for our feelings, and we own the impacts – both positive and negative – of our choices and actions.
  • Leadership Mastery – Because we believe that role models change lives … we practice highly principled personal, interpersonal, and group leadership.
  • Empowered Mission – Because we value generosity, service, and connection to spirit … we explore and live from our deepest purpose.
  • Supportive Community - Because we care for ourselves and the generations to come … we create a place for men from all walks of life to learn and teach in a safe, respectful, challenging, and inclusive peer-network. read more …

The ManKind Project helps men make the difficult transition into a new sense of purpose and healthy mature manhood. You might be ready to take a risk and see what life’s like on the other side of the door you’ve come to.

If you’re ready to make a bold choice, that door can be thrown wide open. The ManKind Project presents a training for men called the New Warrior Training Adventure. At the NWTA, you’ll be challenged and supported to learn more about yourself in 48 hours than you’ve probably learned in the last 20 years.

If you are serious about your personal development, and ready to take action to make your life what you want it to be – NOW is the time.

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How Trust is Formed in Adam’s Words

by David Galvagno on January 21, 2016

For those the that are not familiar with us, the Salt City Men’s Group is a circle sitting in Syracuse, NY and is an open I-Group. An Open I-Group will allow men who have not attended the NWTA to sit in circle with them.

Early in November of 2015, a young man named Adam came to with us for the first time. We had found each other through our group’s newly set up Meetup.com page. This remarkable young man has over the last four months become an integral part of the group.  He has expressed his desire to attend our upcoming NWTA weekend as well as Law School in the near future.

Recently, during a circle, when we had a two brothers attending from Rochester in addition to four members of a local men’s group from another organization visiting our circle, Adam asked to take a few minutes to read something during our work round.  It turned out to be part of his application to law school.

He has given me the permission to share his words here with you. All the men present were in some way touched by the words of this young man.

“I have never been a very open person. Maybe it stems from me wanting to appear infallible to my peers. Maybe it stems from my distrust of men from growing up without a father and never fully understanding how men connect with other men. Whatever the cause(s), I rarely open myself up unless I fully trust a person; the result being a very short list of close friends and confidants. My mother, a central figure in my life, always provides me with love and affection. She worked nights so she could be there when I got home from school. She moved us halfway across the country after domestic incidents with my estranged father became too commonplace for comfort. My mother has been and always will be my greatest supporter and protector. What I’ve struggled with is not a lack of love, but a lack of connection.

Given my distrust of men in particular, it was with much reservation and skepticism that I decided to attend an all men’s group. All men? The initial thoughts that came to mind centered around a cadre of chauvinistic, macho men whose t-shirts were two sizes too small. I also thought I would likely be the only person of color in the room. The latter was true, but the former could not have been further from the truth.

My first meeting was harmless enough, despite the uneasiness I felt towards men I had just met trying to hug me. What struck me the most about these men is that they had no problems with airing out sensitive and revealing information about themselves in front of a complete stranger. This is a group of men who hold themselves accountable, acknowledge they have weaknesses, and seek to actively work towards being better human beings.

For the first time in a while, I felt like I didn’t have to project an aura of invincibility. This in itself really set me in a tailspin since outward appearance is central to how I project myself. My high school reinvention, to mask all of the pain and insecurity, was to project an image of perfection and seriousness at all times. It worked all through high school and I became a master at it in college. Despite all the awards and involvement, I actually had very few friends to show for it. I was looked up to and exemplified as a role model, but had made only one connection in the form of a mentor during college. This fact naturally wore on me as college friends who I considered close turned out to be nothing more than friendly acquaintances. I was so tired of feeling isolated and not being able to express who I truly am. Was this group going to be the key to helping me be who I am to others? I had no idea that I was about to confront and come to peace with a stark dichotomy that had isolated me for such a long time.

My third meeting really shook me to the core and provided perspective beyond what I could have ever imagined. There is a segment in the group where men rank an issue they are currently struggling with on a scale of 1 to 10. I ranked my issue as a 7, and the floor was mine. I explained that my girlfriend and I had recently taken on the responsibility of providing foster care for her adopted sister’s son (aged 3) and daughter (aged 2). The problem is whether I decide to pursue law school with or without them. This question naturally causes tension in my relationship since it casts much uncertainty on what the future will hold. To tackle this question, we performed an exercise involving three chairs where I was in the middle and two sides of me were in the other chairs: which I named prestige and love. Prestige was an embodiment of my drive and ambition to succeed while love embodied openness with my feelings.

I decided to start with prestige, and gave myself a stern pep talk about how everything I’d worked for was on the line and my penance was coming due for retribution. I then turned to the other chair and spoke from the side of love and stressed the importance of not being afraid to be open. Then it hit me, luckily without falling out of the chair. Each side, love and prestige, would destroy me at their extremes. Prestige would lead me down an endless road of insatiable lust for success. Love would lead me in a vicious cycle of fragility and vulnerability. My solution had been to ramp up prestige and prioritize it over love. My biggest reservation for the side of love was the belief that it weakened me while prestige made me fearless. I realized that prestige was the side that was afraid and weak at its extreme since it’s constant drive for success was merely a mask for insecurity. And there it was, the nugget that I didn’t mean to find but did. The key was to strike a balance between the extremes and not let one dominate the other. It was at this moment that I began to cry a little. A weight that had been pulling me down so forcibly seemed to magically disappear. What I truly seek above all else is harmony. Harmony in pursuit of the success I desire; harmony in the relationships I maintain, and harmony in bringing it all together.

I know that I still have a long way to go for me to truly be as open as I can be. What this experience impressed upon me is I have the power to overcome even the direst of circumstances. I have no doubt that law school will be difficult and will require me to elevate to the highest levels of performance. What gives me the confidence and conviction to pursue my goals is the satisfaction of knowing that I am growing as a person and am capable of feats beyond even my own understanding. I will continue this progression forward by living the mantra of the group, AHO: which is to be authentic, honest, and open. “

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The Winners Are…

January 6, 2016

The winners of the Ron Herring and Rich Tosi Awards have been announced. For the Ron Herring Award which honors a man who is breathing life into a Mission of Service outside the MKP community.  Stergios Skatharoudis for his work with homeless and hospice. For the Rich Tosi Award which honors a man in our community […]

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The Mask You Live in Benefit

January 5, 2016

Hello, you are invited to the following event: ROCHESTER PREMIER: THE MASK YOU LIVE IN BENEFIT FOR M.K. GANDHI INSTITUTE Thursday, February 4, 2016 from 6:30 PMto 9:00 PM (EST) The Little Theatre 240 East Avenue #100 Rochester, NY 14604 View Map Attend Event

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USAGE Planning Meeting w/Zoom Available

January 4, 2016

What         Planning Meeting, Video & Tele-Conference When        Thursday  Jan 4th from 7:00 – 9:00 pm Where           ACES - Downtown Rochester or Zoom Phone & Video Contact         Jim Fannon   585-208-9425   jamesf2949@aol.com Connect     Join from PC, Mac, Linux, iOS or Android: https://zoom.us/j/251766979 Or join by […]

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The Call Has Gone Out

December 29, 2015

Are you ready? Are you sure you are ready? If so you are invited to revel in the energy and passion that the MKP Upstate New York Area is experiencing as a staff member for the May 2016 New Warrior Training Adventure. Apply to staff and join your brothers in initiating men into the sacred masculine. Invite […]

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The Mask You Live In

December 13, 2015

We are raising money in Rochester for the M.K. Gandhi Institute for Non-Violence. They offer a wide variety of programs in the Rochester City schools, at University of Rochester, at Rochester Institute of Technology, and at their headquarters. All of their programs are aimed at teaching young people how to resolve conflicts peacefully. They maintain […]

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Meeting Notes for December Community Council

December 10, 2015

12/10/15 6PM Ken Stoneburg – King I will be taking notes on all the items. -Status of financials year to date: Zeiner Riedman Is there more to say here? Did the financials come in? The update came through email. Rich will produce a P&L and publish this to the group. -Upstate NY hosting of 2016 […]

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Holiday Gathering – Zydeco Night

December 4, 2015

What         Holiday Gathering Why           Zydeco Music, Dancing, Food When         Sunday  Dec 13 Where       Harmony House, Webster, NY Who           You, your circle; your family & friends Contact     Bruce Handelman,  585-727-4119 zydjunky@rochester.rr.com Brothers … I offer up a suggestion:  A Holiday Party for members of […]

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Movie Night

December 3, 2015

MKP-UNY is making tremendous progress to present a film screening in Rochester. The concept is to arrange one or more screenings of the documentary called The Mask You Live In. Winner of over a dozen awards, this film follows boys and young men as they struggle to stay true to themselves while negotiating America’s narrow […]

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The ManKind Project is a global nonprofit [501 (c)(3)] charitable organization that conducts challenging and highly rewarding programs for men at every stage of life. The ManKind Project supports a global network of peer-facilitated men's groups where men mentor men through the passages of their lives. The ManKind Project empowers men to missions of service, supporting men to make a difference in the lives of men, women, and children around the world. We help men through any transition, men at all levels of success, men facing almost any challenge. Our flagship training, described by many as the most powerful men's training available, is the New Warrior Training Adventure. The ManKind Project (MKP) is not affiliated with any religious practice or political party. We strive to be increasingly inclusive and culturally aware.